Are you living your grandmother's love story? Spirituality of love relationships

Is it even possible?

Yes it is, very much so. 

How Is it even possible?

As depicted in the picture, you experienced your grandmother's love story because as she was pregnant with your mother, you were also part of the equation but as a seed in your mother's womb. So, whatever your grandmother went through it is ingrained in your DNA.

But my grandmother had a beautiful love story, why am I not winning then in love?

One thing we need to understand is that we keep memories in our body. Meaning many times we may not express in words or even actions what we're going through, but the body keeps the memory. The fact that you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.

Remember our parents and especially our grandparents didn't show or even fight in front of us. Which is why to date many of us will say "my parents had a beautiful marriage and never fought, always happy". What you must understand is that not seeing it doesn't mean it wasn't there. Which is why many of people are struggling in relationships because they're looking for what they saw from their parents which is necessarily not the entire truth of the relationship. But definitely it was felt and kept by the body one way or the other. 

Still confused? Let me dive in a little deeper

Remember, most of our grandmothers didn't live their best life because of the laws that were in place at that time. Some were forced to even marry a person that they were not in love with. Others were unable to live their dreams as the laws of that time didn't permit women to do and obtain certain things. As a result what most of us saw, were the coping mechanisms that were adopted in order to be able to survive in that time. 

As a result, what was displayed at most times in front of us were not the entire truth of what was. So when you were in there, you felt all of it exactly as was not what was meant to be seen out there. 

So, what many of us then did when we came face to face with this reality, you made a vow not to allow this to happen to you. So the minute you enter mother earth, you came already carrying that vow in your soul. This is what we talk about when we say "heal your trauma" which is in this case the fragmented aspect of your soul.

What does fragment soul mean?

It means that your soul is not experiencing its life in its true divine form but through the eyes and pain of another. Which is why then you'll keep attracting people that are of similar nature in your love life and you end up thinking there's no hope, all because of the vow you made. 

Can vows be reversed or corrected, if yes, how?

Yes, they definitely can be corrected. The best place to start is to acknowledge the pattern you're seeing. Acknowledge it as is without judging it as wrong or right. 

For example, let's say your grandmother was a stay at home person, or had a spiritual gift that they refuted because of the laws as explained above. Your part is to acknowledge where she was. 

I always tell my clients to start asking the question "what happened to me?" when they want to start healing this aspect of themselves. What then happens is that certain memories start resurfacing, that you were not even conscious of. These memories will be of events that actually did happen that you didn't remember because you chose not to at that time. What happens is that the minute you start asking these type of questions, then you start remembering. 

What we need to understand about vows, is that when we make them we use the fight/flight mechanism which is what as species we activate in order to survive. In these cases these vows take on one of the two forms, i.e. repel or attract. Meaning you will either repel the minute you smell anything that reminds you of that feeling or you will stay with the person who gives you the similar feeling even if it hurts you. 

How does one breakthrough then?

1 - By having clear understanding and accepting that you are NOT your mother or grandmother. 

2 - Accept that it was their journey that they lived that way and you're not here to correct them or live it better for them. This is how you unconsciously repeat the story

3 - Invest in your own healing of the fragmented aspects of your soul so that you can live your truth.

Remember whatever it is that one experienced is not a mistake, it happened because it was meant to happen that particular way and for a reason. Your part is to know and live your truth and not see life through their eyes and by judging them for the choice of life they accepted for themselves. Whichever way that life was, it is what they chose for themselves. You also need to do same for yourself, otherwise, you will keep repeating their love story until it sinks in that you must live your own truth.

Feel free to engage by commenting on this post or reach out by email on: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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Know more about the Lionsgate portal, its importance and effects on you

 What is Lionsgate portal?

It is an event that happens in the cosmos (sky) every year  where the sun, earth, the star Sirius are in alignment. It is seen as the biggest day in the year where all the strong powerful energies are in sync.

It is said to be most powerful time to be intentional about your manifestations as this marks the beginning of a new year

\When does it happen?

The portal opens between the 26th of July and 12th of August but it is most powerful on the 8th of August.

Why the Lion is a representation of this portal?

A lion is one of the wild animals that values familyhood. Actually whenever lions travel within the forest they travel as a family. And everyone knows their roles very well within that herd. You will not find the lion curb doing what the mother lion should be doing. Or the mother doing what the father is supposed to do. And when the curb has grown old enough it is allowed to move around and starts its own family. 

Lions are strong, brave, and very courageous. Even if it is scared it will not show. It uses it's body structure and appearance well, meaning it uses these attributes to its advantage in order to win over other wild animals. 

It is because of this that this portal is labelled as Lionsgate, meaning that this is the time for one to stand out, be courageous and brave about the things that you want to manifest in your life. 

What impact does it have on us this portal?

In as much as it time for great manifestation. We must also be conscious and aware that this is the period where families will be tested. Where your wounds and traumas will show up. It is also the time where your emotions will be all over the place especially if there are issues that needs to come up and you need to still deal with.

This is why most of the time, there would be different family gatherings around this time. And anything that is done during this time that is meant to bring wealth, peace, love and joy within a family structure would be highly rewarded. Because as mentioned above, lions are about family hood, their highest value is family structure. 

Since we are only conscious of about 1% of the things that happens in our lives, we must be aware that during this time, it is when families will be greatly tested. Issues will rise up more especially around this day. It is imperative to pay attention to how you respond to all the events that will be heightened during this period.

It is also a time where things that boosts your ego will manifest. You just need to be careful that you do not let your egoistic self take over as you manifest. Because if you  do that, the very energy will be what will lead you more into depression when things do not happen the way you want them to. 

During this time, you will know exactly what your family is all about. Both your weaknesses and strength will be highlighted. It is during this time that you must be conscious of your weaknesses and understand them and then tap more into your family strengths. When you do this, you will have used this portal and important event in the cosmic to the best of its potential. 

If you find yourself to be struggling with family issues during this time, do not bury your head in the ground and avoid the things that are coming up, instead reach out for help here so you gain understanding as to why these things are happening and what lessons you are meant to take from them. 

It is no coincidence that this day falls a day before Women's day celebration. To understand more about what I mean by that, please do research about lifestyle of a lion. Alternatively you can book a session with me and I'll tell you all about it. 

Thank you for passing by. Have a great Women's day and month. 

Much love

Sexually transmitted trauma - what it is and how to heal it

Can trauma be sexually transmitted, for real?

 The simple answer is YES it is. Actually this is the most powerful and yet subtle way to transfer trauma amongst individuals. 

As we all know, sex is powerful and it is a creation energy. We were all created from it. 

For you to understand how powerful sex is, just take a look at the stats on the pictures as to how quick it was to build an app in just 19 days which other people did over years. 

Does this mean we shouldn't be having sex in fear of getting trauma from others through it?

No, that's not what we're promoting or saying in this article. All we are doing is helping people understand what it is that they're getting into as they engage in sex.

First thing that you must be aware of is that you don't know what is going on in the other person's life. As much as sex is fun and very exciting to have, we must also understand the power and impact it has on us.

When you are engaging in sex with the other person, you must be aware of the energy you are exchanging. For an example, you shouldn't be having sex if you are angry all in the name of keeping the peace or out of obligation (especially married women). Because at that stage the energy that is active in you, is not of having fun or pleasure, but of resentment and anger. You don't really want to do this but are doing it because you believe you have to and you also fear that if you don't then the man will leave you and find someone else. 

So, instead of you exchanging the fun/pleasure that you should be or are thinking you are exchanging, you are actually exchanging fear, etc. And if you are a man and you're thinking I'm doing this to prove that I'm a man and  that I've slept with her too or many girls ("ngimshayile naye" as they normally say), at that point you're not really exchanging the pleasure but unworthiness. Because the real reason or motive behind you having this sex in the first place is prove a point.

Just like those who wants to just release, at that point you must be aware that you're using sex as a escape. And whatever it is that you are escaping from will be multiplied just by you being inside of that woman. Because a womb is like an oven or a yeast, it increases or multiplies whatever it is that it is receiving. 

You'll then wonder why certain things keep happening in your life or you're busy going around in circles on one thing, it is the energy you keep exchanging unconsciously as you engage in sex. 

The mere act of sex says a lot about you, I wrote an article on this too, you can read it here

So the next time you are engaging in sex, ask yourself "what am I transmitting here?"

What then happens to all the traumas we received sexually?

We need to cleanse ourselves of them. It is said that sexually energy stays for 7 solid years within one's energetic field if not cleared intentionally. Things becomes even worse or takes longer if there's a child who was conceived.

For women, if you're still getting your periods, you can use that time to cleanse off all these energies. If you are not getting your monthly periods or are a man, you need to do a cleansing ritual as often as possible, at least once a year. 

If you want to get more information as to how to cleanse using your periods or what ritual to do, you can make contact with me here

In a nutshell as beautiful and powerful sex is, we need to use it to serve our highest good than just engaging on it unaware on what we are doing. 

Trust this article was of value to you, we would like to hear from you, please comment or email on portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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The dynamics of a parent child relationship with love relationships

 As indicated in the previous article, our relationship with our parents plays a very big role in how we express or show up in our love relationship in our adult life. Read all about it here

Now there's this thing going around giving an impression that this parent child relationship causes more problems than anything else in a relationship. 

This article is meant to help you understand what are the dynamics of a parent child relationship within your love relationship or any relationship for that matter.

What is this parent child relationship, what does it mean exactly?

This is a concept that many of us recognizes especially when there's conflict or challenges within a relationship. Where you'll hear one using statements like "she/he doesn't want to grow up", "I feel like she's mothering me" or "He acts like my father".

Many times we use these statements when things are not going well and there's huge problems within a relationship.

But what I'd like us to know is that any form of a relationship is made up of a parent child dynamic. Meaning at any given time you're either playing a role of a child or a parent within a relationship. This is what relationships are for in the first place. 

In a partnership you are taking on either a child or parent role. And this we interplay throughout by even exchanging these roles depending on what situation we are in at a time.

So you tell me that in my relationship I either a parent/child?

The simple answer to that is YES. 

What we need to understand though is what type of a parent or child are you within your relationship or at any given moment or situation in your relationship.

Are you that nagging child who cries and throws tantrums at every chance they get or are you just a playful, happy and explorative child?

Seemingly, what type of a parent are you? Are you that domineering, strict and my way or the highway type of a parent?

Or

Are you the supportive, loving, kind, disciplinary type of a parent?

This is very important to know as it will give perspective on a type of relationship you're having if it's a loving and healthy one or is it the wounded one.

How do you tell/know which one are you?

If you find yourself in a space where you're fighting more and having more arguments than good loving fun times in your relationship, then you must know the both of you are showing up or expressing the wounded parent child relationship. Meaning you're currently expressing your pain or trauma you either endured as a child from your own parent or you're playing out what you observed between your own parent(s) which hurt you. 

How does one change this around, is it even possible?

Yes it is very possible to change your situation and the first thing to do is acknowledging your role and what you're expressing. This is called self-awareness. This is a key to a doorway to finding and receiving help when one acknowledges their part more than that of their partner. 

The biggest problem with many relationships is that people never recognizes themselves but more what their partner is or not. 

If you want to get the balance or correct the imbalance, you have got to recognize yourself first. It is more like putting your own mask first before giving it to another person or trying to save the other.  If you're prone to saving the other person first which is what most people do within their relationship, you're bound to have disaster or even die within that relationship. We had a great conversation with Aubrey the other day on radio on this subject, listen here for more information and perspective

If you find yourself drowning more and more in your relationship or find that you keep meeting the same person you thought you left home either at work or in business, please do book yourself a session with me here so we can help you with that situation.

At the end of it all, there's definitely nothing wrong with parent child relationship unless there's an imbalance and you're showing up more as your wounded self. That's when you need to seek help. 

Other than that, enjoy those dynamics because we do need those aspect of ourselves in order to build strong healthy sustainable homes and families.

We'd like to hear from you, comment below or send us an email on portia@theloveacademy.co.za or contact me via Whatsapp here

Take care

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Did religion fail us when it comes to our ancestors?

A huge part of me says YES.

Coming from a Christian family background and still a Christian as I write this post, I have been made aware of so many things that are very good yet were miscommunicated deliberately or unknowingly about us and our ancestors.

What Christian religion teaches about ancestors?

I was taught that they don't exist and have no power whatsoever. And most importantly was that they're evil. And the minute you speak about them or connect with them anyhow you're inviting evil into your life.

Yet, the very same Bible we read and refer to makes reference to ancestors that believers and teachers speak against. All of those people who are mentioned there are no longer alive, yet when we speak of our own ancestors it was deemed evil or being lost. 

Now the question I kept having was, why those ancestors and not ours? Then I came to a conclusion that something is and was amiss here and I went on a quest to know more. 

Now, there's this Bible verse that I read - Deuteronomy 5:9. When I came to this verse I didn't even read further to understand more but got stuck here that we will be punished for our forefather's sins. I didn't understand how can God even do that. This knowing didn't sit well with me at all. 

Little did I know, why?

I got stuck on the sins part and didn't capture the blessings part. The teachings I got from church didn't help either because they made me disconnect further.

What did I learn in my quest to know more?

I learnt that they do exist, for real and not out there like we make it out to be but they exist in me. This was also confirmed when I had to complete a form while consulting a specialist and they asked about my family history. I had to answer questions like:

Did anyone in your family suffer from the following diseases......?

Did anyone die of a heart attack before the age of 50?

Was anyone in your family diagnosed with the following diseases?

My answers to these questions related both to people who were alive and those that had long passed on. 

I remember when my test for cholesterol came back, the nurse who assisted me explaining the results said; "if things like high blood, diabetes, cancer, etc. are in your family bloodline you are in a very high risk of getting same unless you take good care of yourself."

That time what I knew without a shadow of a doubt was that both my mother and grandmother died from heart related problems- heart attack to be exact. 

Now this made me more determined on my a quest to find out more.

This is when I was introduced to another side of life - African spirituality. 

When I got there I saw the very same thing I saw in religion 

And what is that?

Both were instilling fear around ancestors more than anything else. While religion said "you shouldn't " African healers said "if you don't.....". Both were doing the same thing in a different way. 

It is through deciding to embark on a personal relationship with my ancestors by asking them questions than hearing from others that I learnt something completely different. 

What did I learn?

I learnt that it is not only the sins that we inherit but also the blessings, the courage, the strength, the powers too. 

In actual effect, I realized that they had more powers to do the unthinkable than we're led to believe.  

They led me to their history, things that were done, pyramids that were built, technologies, sacred information that I didn't know about. This information was here all around me, yet I didn't have access to it, why?

Because when I thought of ancestors and were told of them, it was always about what they didn't do that needed fixed. It was all about the wrongs they did and never about the good they did and achieved. 

I realized I kept connecting to this aspect of them because that's what I knew about them. I only acknowledged and knew of their sins and weaknesses vs the success and powers. 

It is through me understanding this that I got my power back. I changed my life around in an instant. I connected with the part of them that was lying dormant in me because of what was perceived about them and what I was also taught all my life. 

And today I'm sharing this with you because I'm here ready to help you reconnect with this aspect of yourself. Because it exist in you, you will not be able to tap to those powers while you fear the most powerful aspect of yourself - your ancestors.

No need to runaway anymore, no need to be scared of yourself because you are them and they are you. You just need to connect with that aspect of you in a more positive and loving light. 

Should you need assistance with that, do not hesitate to contact me here

Going back to the question asked in the subject line, the answer maybe that "it didn't" but we're the ones that were not yet ready to know certain things, i.e. our truth and power? Now I understand even deeper this quote by Marianne Williamson that  'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure'

What's your take on that?

Please share in comments 

Much love

Are your periods causing pains in your relationship/marriage?

Before we go any further I want you to know that experiencing period pains is NOT normal. I've seen so many people making period pains a norm as if it's something that should happen.

Believe you me when I tell you that it is not.

What are periods?

This is a monthly cycle where a woman sheds and releases blood off her body where fertilization of an egg didn't happen.

Now, there's too many beliefs around periods and how unclean/dirty they are. But the truth of the matter is that there's so much power on the periods. I mean this blood was a fertile ground ready to nurture an egg through the fertilization process, what then makes it bad once it flows out the system? That's a question to be answered on another day.

What causes them to be painful though?

Let me start by explaining what pain is. Pain is a signal by the body of where it got hurt. It's a symbol the body uses to make you aware that there's some part in you that needs your attention.

So if this happens during your periods this too is a signal that something is not right. 

What could be wrong that is being signaled by your periods?

You must be consciously aware that this pain only happens when there's blood coming off your system/body. This on its own tells you that whatever is wrong has to do with your bloodline or the blood that runs within you. Hence you get specific pains ONLY when you are in your periods. 

How do you then identify what could be wrong that needs your attention?

This you do by becoming observant about yourself and everything happening around you during your periods as all of that is giving you all the information as well as solutions for the pains/hurts that you are carrying within yourself that needs your attention. 

Your people are in pain and needing your assistance, hence they cause you to feel their pain through your own body because they live in your body too. 

How does is affect your relationship?

Obviously if one is in pain of some sort, their emotions, feelings and behavior changes. 

Now for may couples it has become a norm that during this time of the month a woman's mood swings will change and for those having pains it will be very bad mood swings. Which then leads to fights that stems from petty things/arguments. 

Then there are those women that have longer periods and at times for a full 2 weeks or even a month/months. 

During this time there's no intercourse nor cuddling or anything like that. 

Instead the couple is constantly fighting or the mood at home is not welcoming.

This then leads to cheating which also cause more harm than good. 

How can men support their partner suffering from period pains?

1. Encourage them to seek help 

2. Instead of judging the situation be compassionate. Seek to understand her more,  making things worse through your unavailability (especially emotionally)

3. Listen to what is not being said by her. During this time, listen more to what she's complaining about,  either about you or other people 

When you do these attentively, you're on your way to getting a viable solution. 

If you have tried these before and nothing has worked, then you've got to come to my office by booking yourself a consultation here. 

As mentioned on this article, there's more to period pains than meets the eye. So please don't just sit there and hope for the best, take action especially if you love the person you're with. 

You, the woman experiencing this be conscious of your own behavior around this time. Is it specific things or people that work on your nerves during this time or what? But more importantly reach out for help.

This situation is not normal so stop making it normal and seek help.

Leave a comment or question should you be led to. 

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Can your relationship with your parents really have an impact in your love life?

 The simple answer to this question is YES.

How?

For you to be born, these 2 souls had to meet whichever way that may be and both their cells (sperm and egg) were needed in order for you to be formed. 

So, in you runs both their genes and those of their lineages because within us we carry trillions and trillions of cells that carry certain information for us and about us.

What if I don't know my parents or one of them?

That is not really a problem because in you or within you they already exist. So as you get to know yourself, you get to know them too.

How do they impact my relationship/love life then?

Let's start with your mother first, you were nurtured in her womb as you developed from spirit into the physical being you are. Your mother is the soil that you were nurtured to this life through. 

Your father on the other side, is the actual seed which was planted into the womb/soil. 

So your relationship gets affected by both these things, what type of soil you were planted in and what type of seed that bears the fruit you are.

So your relationship with them is the first and typical way that you will express yourself in relationships. And this happens unconsciously. Remember 99% of the things we do, we do them without thinking about it. This is your default setting.

If your relationship with any of them is non existent or toxic or good or healthy, that will be your default expression too until you consciously decide to do what is beneficial for you.

Let me use an example to illustrate this:

If your mother was hurt/raped or going through some traumatic experience when she was pregnant with you, you are most likely to suffer a lot from unexplainable sadness, anger or resentment in your life. How you'll then show up in relationship, you'll be more like an angry partner who's always looking for a reason to fight the next person. 

If your father is/was a drunkard and irresponsible, you may find yourself indulging and spending more and more money on alcohol or any other irresponsible behavior.

What can I then do if I don't have a good relationship with either of them?

Like I always tell my clients, the first point of healing is AWARENESS. You need to be aware of the state of your being. The next step is to ACCEPT who and what you are. Instead of fighting it, you need to establish why you chose them as they are and accepted their genes. 

When you get to this point, this is when you start expressing in relationships the person you are not them as most people do. 

Most people spend most of their time trying not to be like their parents and end up being exactly or worse than them. 

Hence the solution for you NOW is to accept. And if accepting doesn't mean you sit with problems and think to yourself that you are doomed because your parents are this way or that way. 

Instead acceptance is accepting things you can not change, which is them but you can definitely change yourself.

And if you don't know how to do that, then please feel free to book a session with me here or  by email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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You are a HUMAN BEING, do you really understand what this really mean?

 I often hear people say: "I'm like that and I will never change". And this makes me really wonder if this person truly understand what they are saying about themselves or if they even understand what being a human or being called a 'human being' really means. 

Well I thought I should share this over a blog. 

What does it mean?

It means that on a daily basis you're becoming. You're evolving, you're actually meeting a new part of yourself. 

When do people actually say such a statement - "I'm like this"?

It happens when one is refusing to acknowledge the present, the now. When they are in denial of a situation and wanting to hold on to something that is no longer serving that current situation they are in. 

What I find interesting is that such statements come when there's a conflict of some sort. And when people are suppose to address and deal with the issue at hand they then want to hold to what  was.

What is the reality for all of us?

Our reality is that we are changing and becoming on a daily basis. Actually every second. What I normally tell my clients is that everything you know about yourself NOW, is history. You're meeting a new aspect of yourself on a daily basis that you are not aware of.

Once we can all understand this, we will stop limiting ourselves by holding on to what we know about ourselves and then welcome the opportunity to receive the person we're becoming on a daily basis. 

 This understanding will help alleviate a lot of frustrations as well as limitations in one's life. 

Do you want proof to see how much you're changing on a daily basis?

Take a picture of yourself after reading this article , then set a remainder for a week or so then take another picture of yourself then.

If you also want to see how much change you're embodying on a daily basis, go and check your posts, ideologies of Jan 2021 and see how much you've grown or changed this far. 

And if accepting the changes you're seeing about someone close to your heart is giving you heartache, please do reach out here and book a coaching session so we can help deal with that. 

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PASSOVER - what does it mean to you?

 What is Passover?

According to the Bible, it is a tradition where the Israelites shared meals with family and loved ones in commemoration of God freeing them from slavery.

In the new Testament it is remembered as the last meal that Jesus shared with his disciples before his journey to the cross that led to his death and resurrection.

Today in this article I'd like to share with you a revelation that I recently had about this particular celebration/tradition.

There's' this notion or belief that I myself and many others in their spiritual journey have been led to believe, that many of our problems stems as a result of our parents denouncing their spiritual gifts. Through this understanding one is made to believe that in order for these specific gifts not to be passed over to the next generation, we have got to own them. 

Once again through studying the life of Jesus I got to understand this differently.  I got to learn that actually it is not that the gift especially of healing will not be passed over but it is for us to understand that the gifts are alive in  our DNA for the entire existence of humanity. 

What do I mean about that?

It means that even if you can do the healing yourself and own your gifts, this doesn't necessarily mean those gifts or the healing won't have to be passed to the next generation. 

This is entirely not true and believing such is setting one up for failure and being at risk of perpetuating fear into disowning one's capabilities and gifts.

When we look into the genealogy of Jesus Christ in Matthew chapter 1, it is very clear that before him there were many more other Kings that lived through his lineage and did what they thought was necessary with their earthly position and gifts. Yet, he was still born to fulfill his own mission in his lifetime. 

This notion that we see happening or being perpetuated especially in some religious and spiritual practices is not entirely a true reflection. Through these practices we keep hearing that someone's spirit (grandfather/mother) is alive in you and you have to carry on their mission in order for your things to come right. 

Actually what is being meant is that, you have come back to rectify or complete a part of your mission that you didn't complete when you lived as that particular soul in your previous life. And now you are here to accomplish something. 

Secondly, it doesn't necessarily mean you've got to do what you did then or how your grandmother/father did things then, but through the spirit that lives in you, you have got to do it your own way that you have been gifted and armed.

No wonder many people fail to practice or even use their gifts the best way they know how because they are also trying to imitate somebody else who lived before them.

What has all this got to do with Passover?

Passover literally means something being passed from one generation to the next. It's like passing the baton to the next person to handle and carry it to the next person the best way they know how. 

If we were to have this deep understanding that Jesus didn't have to be Boaz or to do like Ruth or anybody else before him but be himself the best way he knows how and the best way he was well equipped to. 

With this understanding, you will not be focusing on your healing so that your kids don't inherit because by virtue of them being born they have already inherited. But you'll focus on your healing with understanding that it is your mission of being here. And that you will not be able to heal everything all by yourself but every other soul is here to help each other in this regard.

This way each and every person will then focus more on the baton on their hands that while it's with me I carry it with pride and make sure I get to the next person with it still in my hand.

Should you by any chance struggle to phantom what I'm sharing through this article, please don't hesitate to comment or make contact via Whatsapp here or email portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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Human rights day - Are you using your rights for the benefit of your generations?

 What is Human Rights Day?

This is the day that was set aside to commemorate those that not only lost their lives in 1960 but also shown courage by standing for what they believed in.

Their actions shaped the way things are done from that day onwards. 

Those souls might have lost their lives but their actions have lived till this far. They have left a legacy that us alive today are repeating its fruits. 

What does this tell us as people?

That whatever it is that you are here for, you may not live to see it but that shouldn't stop you from fulfilling your mission by stepping fully into your assignment. 

For the last couple of weeks I've been writing about the importance of us knowing certain things about our family tree/lineage. Things that are tiny pieces of the puzzle that are meant to help you get an idea of what your mission is as well as the mandate of your family.

You know what's interesting is that, as I'm typing this I'm realizing that I don't even know if there's any of my family members that participated in that march. They might have not died, but took part in it. The question for you too is "do you know if your family member was there?"

Why should we even know or care if they were there?

That's because knowing will also help you understand some of the things you've been experiencing yourself. Maybe that anxiety you keep getting is linked to the people that are in your lineage that participated in that march,  didn't die but survived and now the terror of what could have been is what you also get every now and then?

Maybe you are one of those people that are carrying this fighting spirit and at times even using it incorrectly or it being used against you just because their effort wasn't recognized because they didn't die on that day? So you're literally reliving this trauma through your own daily experiences and you don't even understand what the heck is happening and why is happening in the first place?

Life is so interesting so much so that there are just so many things we are now going through, either right or wrong that are here to give us so much information about who were are and what type of blood we carry within our selves. Yet we look everywhere for the answers and think it's too difficult when all the information could right under your nose.

Do you even know what these rights are?

Today I gave myself that permission to go and equip myself with what these rights are and where they even emanated from, i.e. the history behind it. Until today I didn't even know there was a Universal declaration that was undertaken by certain countries and religions to set out these rights. 

I don't know about you, and if you are anything like me, do yourself a favor and learn what you need to know about this day. 

While I was doing my research and learning I couldn't help but get deeper understanding of what Martin Luther King Jnr stood for as depicted in the picture above.

This raised so many question that I'd like for you to join me and ponder on:

What rights affected my lineage more than any other as I look back into what I've discovered in the last couple of weeks?

Which of these strengths as depicted in the picture above do we express more in our family?

Which one(s) do I exude more myself?

Which one am I not expressing that could the reason I am where I am today?

How can I start expressing them so I step fully into my mission?

I believe as we delve more and more deeper into understanding ourselves it is then that we gain more power and are able to be what are meant to be while experiencing all the love and joy we are meant to have in this lifetime therefore changing or shaping the expression of our genealogy going forward.

If you liked this article, please do comment below and also share with others.

As we celebrate this day further, let's make it a new habit to do it with more understanding and clarity so we can have a better world to live in.

Remember you can connect with me via Whatsapp here or by email on portia@theloveacademy.co.za

Much love

Your health issue and its cure could be discovered early through your family tree

 Have you ever wondered why when you go to some doctors for a consultation you'll be asked of your family history?

Even worse, most of the insurance companies especially when it comes to risk products (life cover, dreaded diseases, etc.) they will definitely look into your family health history. 

The reason for this is because most of the diseases are transferred through your DNA, meaning they're genetical. 

I once went to get my monthly contraceptives and the sister I found that day noticed that my pulse is always on the high vs my blood pressure. She then asked that we do blood test to check my cholesterol levels. 

Upon return of the blood tests, it was discovered that I was at risk of getting a heart attack. I was told that my cholesterol were on the border line. I wasn't sick at that time and I'm not a person who gets sick any way, but that particular day I learnt that condition is genetical and in my family people are prone to  heart attacks. 

Now, my own mother died of a heart attack at age 58, her mother died of a heart attack at age 42. I was about to turn 40 when this cholesterol issue was discovered.

Another instance was when my youngest son was smaller about 9 months old. He had eczema, it was so bad that it was becoming sceptic around the neck. We took him to the dermatologist who also asked us who had allergies like asthma, sinuses, bronchitis, etc. He told us if any of us has those conditions, our child is prone to getting eczema which is also an allergic reaction that shows through the skin. 

He also shared with us ways to identify which foods he's allergic to without us having to pay for those expensive lab tests. 

How can your family tree help you through your health issues?

What most of us don't understand is that many of the diseases as indicated above runs in a family, meaning you're not the first one to have them within your lineage. 

It is therefore very important that we make it a habit to establishing what kind of diseases runs within our family lineage. 

This way you'll be able to discover early as to what you're at risk of getting and start as early as possible to research on ways to combat it or eliminate it altogether from your bloodline. 

If you didn't know, every person alive here is capable of changing the genes of their own bloodline, especially diseases, thought patterns, certain behaviors.

So, the sooner you do your family tree, especially of those that are alive and check what common diseases they have. For an example in my family they're either diabetic or have high blood pressure or at worst case scenario have both. 

Already through this information, I have identified  both physical and spiritual causes of these diseases and what I can do to heal them completely.

Yes, you heard right, spiritual causes (article for another day). Meaning any diseases have a spiritual connection as to why it is happening and that too is linked to the mandate of each family as indicated in the last article. You can read it here

How do I then start healing or correcting my gene expression through my DNA?

There's a small but very effective exercise that is very impactful. And the interesting thing that I established while doing this exercise was that, all the things I needed for healing these diseases were already in my kitchen cupboard. 

Follow these 3 easy steps:

Step one:

Do a family tree and assess what types of diseases are common in your family. In that family tree include also your parents siblings.

Step two:

Clean ONLY your spices cupboard in your kitchen, how:

• Declutter by washing all the spices with soap water as you take them out of the cupboard. Take them out one by one and clean each with soap water
• Sort - throw away expired spices, pack/mix together same spices in different packs, sort them out according to the expiry date. While doing this, pay attention which spices have expired and which ones do you have in abundance
• Pack back - pack the spices accordingly, those that are about to expire in the front and others at the back. As you pack them back, disinfect (spray) them using water with either jik or an alcohol spray.

Step three:

Google the benefits of the spices that had expired as well as those that you have in abundance.

Compare that to the information you got of the diseases in your family.

Share with us in comments what you discovered

This exercise has helped me greatly as well as my family at large. Because what I had discovered I shared with my family, not only that, but I also learnt natural ways to heal the very diseases that my family suffer from

Have fun while doing this exercise, because the objective is to learn about your family health history as well as ways to help heal these diseases naturally so.

Should you need assistance with anything concerning what you read in this article, do not hesitate to make contact with me via Whatsapp here

Much love

How your family tree can be a solution to finding your purpose and mission in this planet

 

 The first time I came across the family tree story was when I was doing an online course a couple of years ago where we were asked to compile a family tree of up to 7 generations. I must say it was a shocker in my system to learn of how much about myself and family lineage I didn't know. 

Why we had to do the family tree?

To identify our skills and natural talents. Yes, you heard right, it turned out as I learnt during that course that many of the things I was doing already run in my bloodline. It's nothing new actually, but an evolution of what is already there. 

Many of us believe with our whole being that whatever it is that we are naturally gifted in is something new in our families whilst in reality it is a family thing. The only thing that's new is how it is being done through you. 

How does this family tree link to one's purpose?

Every family on this planet comes with a soul mandate. We are all here to fulfill a certain mission that fits into a bigger picture of all things. So each and every family gets gifted with some abilities that comes very easy for them so as to help them fulfill the mission. That is why you'll find in a certain family people are gifted with beautiful voices. Their mandate may be to heal others through voice. As they sing people find healing through them. Someone in that family might have a very big strange voice that some of us may deem as not a good voice to sing, only to find that whenever this person sings or even shares something, people always find healing. This happens because the mandate is to help the world to heal and this family will do it through voice. 

Now, many people are currently struggling to find their purpose in this life, they go as far as thinking they don't have a purpose when they actually do. The only challenge is that they're so disconnected with who they truly are in such a way that it feels like it's not there. 

So, if you happen to be one of those people who walk around thinking you don't have a purpose, this is your lucky day because through this article you'll at least get direction of what your purpose is.

What you need to do, is to start compiling your family tree.

How to compile your family tree?

Take a book and get the middle pages of the exercise book. Write your name in the middle of the page (your full birthnames and surname). Underneath, write the names and surnames of your parents, then their parents underneath each, etc. Carry on like that to as far as you know. If you happen to be one of those people who don't know either their father/mother - put a question mark underneath especially where you should be writing the name. Do same for everyone else in the family that you don't know. 

If there's a way of finding out from others around you, please do. Don't be afraid to ask because there's so much power and valuable information lying in this exercise.

Then with everyone, write what it is that you know they do or did, either as work or what they love to do. Anything that you can think of that made or makes the person to make a living. It doesn't necessarily has to be something that they made money or income of. Whatever it is that people do or did, write all of that.

Then check to see how many are active in you and most importantly if you are making money from it or not. 

Once you've identified yourself in this way, look to see, how can you make money from this, how can you activate whatever it is that is a natural gift within your family. This natural gift will be something that is common amongst the family members. 

You can make this more exciting and include, your siblings, your parent's siblings etc. 

Now, share with us below in comments as to what you've discovered about yourself. Even better write yourself and your entire family lineage a GRATITUDE letter about the gifts and talents that you possess. 

These are your tools that you have been equipped with to make a living out of in this life, not only for you but to also make a difference in the world. 

If you come from a family of healers, check how you are meant to be healing others and most importantly how it has been done before and how it has evolved through the years and through you. 

We are all here as part of a mission that is meant to serve humanity. It is high time many of us step into the purpose of our creation and fulfill the mandate we were given so we can have a better world.

Should you be challenged with anything while doing this exercise or maybe come across things you don't like, please don't hesitate to make contact via WhatsApp here

Much love

Natural way to test pregnancy to detect early miscarriage/chemical pregnancy

 

This article I'm writing in response to the question or request I received following the post I wrote on miscarriage. 

One of our readers mentioned that there's a condition called chemical miscarriage which normally happens within 5 weeks of pregnancy. 

In most cases when this miscarriage happens most women are not even aware that they are or were pregnant in the first place. 

Naturally, ovulation in women with a 28 day cycle is normally 14 days from first day of your period. With others it happens a bit earlier, lets say between day 9 to 14.

What makes one not to know if they've had this form of miscarriage?

Firstly most women don't even know their own periods. How it feels, how is the flow, how their bodies feel during the different cycles.  They are so disconnected from their bodies so much so that they're clueless as to what is happening with them at any given time. As a result it makes it very difficult for them to know when they are pregnant or if they've just experienced an early miscarriage. The only way they'll know if they were pregnant is through a pregnancy test and with the miscarriage they'll know only if it happens at a later stage and it's confirmed by the doctor. 

What are the symptoms of early/chemical miscarriage?

Late periods that are heavier than normal, dense with big blood cloths and very heavy and painful abdominal pains. 

Many women take this as just an abnormal cycle with their periods where in fact it's a miscarriage.

What are other ways one can have a miscarriage and not be aware of it?

At times it happens that a woman is carrying twins and then miscarries one and the other one survives. This happens where the woman bleeds and have all the other signs of a miscarriage, at times it is confirmed by the doctors but months later they find out they are still pregnant. This too falls into this type of miscarriage that is unnoticed. 

How can one naturally check if they're pregnant or not?

1. Ensure that you keep a period journal where you'll record everything that happens to you during and around your periods. How the period feels and how your body is experiencing the period itself. Even record things as small as how your period looks and feels

2. Know your monthly cycle as well as you know your phone 😂. Know what cycle you are on, i.e. 28 days or less or more. Most importantly know when you are ovulating so you can have or avoid sex (depending on your situation  if you're trying for the baby or not)

3. If you experience the symptoms shared above, seek help - ASAP

And if you have experienced these, do a cleansing, just in case you have lost a baby. 

How to do the cleansing?

The same way you'll do a cleansing if the baby was a still born or if they died when older. 

As mentioned before, so is below as above. Meaning that whatever you do for the ones that lived and you carried consciously in the physical world, do same for those that lived only in spirit.

Remember, I am available to assist with clarity on these matters, don't hesitate to contact me via WhatsApp here or email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

Much love

GBV - what perpetuates it and how to consciously stop it

 

What is GBV?

Gender based violence is any form of violence done by a gender to another. 

What is sad today is that it has been reduced to violence against women and children only . 

I strongly believed that this shortsightedness about this animal in most of our homes is unconsciously perpetuated through the ignorance around this subject. Many campaigns have been done and are still done but the more investment is done, it seems as if it's the more it is happening.

The greatest challenge currently is that GBV is seen and promoted as something that happens to women and girl children. It is this notion that makes me say we unconsciously perpetuate it for when one erases themselves in the equation, the more they are distancing themselves from being the solution they are.

My take is that women are the greatest contributors to GBV

And how do they do that?

Firstly, the truth is that every man or boy out there is raised by a woman. But when something bad happens to this child the woman is never blamed but we are too quick to either blame the absent fathers or even bad friends. 

This oversight is exactly what makes this bad seed to grow and multiply itself into so many ways out there. If we want to really fight and win this battle, we need to include ourselves (women) as part of the problem.

Secondly, most women carry a lot of wounds and trauma around motherhood and we are not conscious of it. We think and believe that we are the way we are because we were excluded in a lot of things during apartheid times. While that is very true, we unconsciously exclude ourselves in a lot of things especially when it comes to the naughty and ill disciplined children. The only time we include ourselves is when we play the victim card but never part of the very problem at hand. 

What we fail to understand is that you can never be able to bring and be a solution to something that you are not part of. All your solutions will be outsourced from others instead of them coming from within you like when you recognize that you are actually part of the problem.

What are the other ways we promote GBV unconsciously?

Fighting the other woman for whatever reason, instead of facing the monster in the house. 

Insulting each other through body shaming, cyber bullying, gossip, PD (pull down) syndrome. 

These things start small in our very own households, where children are groomed to behave a certain way instead of allowing them to show us who they are. For example, when giving chores, it's very rare that parents will rotate chores, but instead there will be chores for girls and chores for boys. What happens then to those kids where who they are differs from what you know? Where the boy is more the soft one and the girl more the outdoor one? That child will grow up trying to suffocate who they are so they can fit into this structure formed in the home. And when they grow up, they have to burst out of that bubble and end up hurting the very same person they say the love, because why? Their first experience of being hurt was received through a woman (mother) in the name of discipline. 

Then it is a mother who raises kids all by herself because the father is absent. Because they're unconscious and not dealing with the anger that this relationship setup is putting them through, they take it out on children unconsciously so, shouting at them, going as far as saying things like "you're like your father - useless"

These things have become such a norm that we don't think about the impact it is having on the child who will one day be a boyfriend or husband to a girl or woman.

The other most dangerous thing is the belief that it is mainly women that are being abused. When in reality it could be a whole lot of men but it is not seen because they hardly report the abuse they suffer through their parents, partners and/or siblings. 

What can we collectively do to drastically change the status quo?

By knowing what type of woman one is. Because women carry the power of multiplication within them. When a woman understands who she is as a supernatural being who has the most powerful 6th sense, only then we will get this thing right, because each woman will understand what type of a woman they are, and so are the man will understand what type of a woman they came through. Knowing this is the greatest gift we as humanity can ever experience.

If you didn't know we have 3 types of women

1. The one who gets married and go build or awaken things from the husband's side, this they've started at their own homes already

2. The one who bores children at home, even from different fathers and those kids never have a relationship with their fathers, not because she doesn't want them to but at times it's because the fathers have chosen to be absent (abazala imilanjwana). These children turn out to be the ones who build and sustain their mother's family home

3. The one who never marry, at most times will have 1 or 2 children which is very rare also, they are the ones that stay behind at home when everyone either dies or marries or never seem to care. They build and maintain their own family home (mafitwa)

Why it's important to know this?

It will help heal the wounds of not having a father which makes most people mainly men to behave a certain way and claim it's because they never had a father. But if they understood they are imilanjwana there won't be a need to go looking for the father you never had because you understand your position in this family.

Similarly, there won't be any pressure put to the women who are meant to stay at home to want to be in marriages they are not meant to be in, this wound of being called names or your children being called names won't be there because you fully understand your position

When we do these, we are now putting things back into the order they are/were meant to be. Instead of using words to destroy each other, we would be better equipped with the right knowledge as to who we truly are and who we are born of. 

When we are aware of such things about ourselves, then we as women will not find ourselves multiplying pain and hurt but instead we will use our 6th supernatural sense to create the things we want and that are meant to be instead of that which we don't want. 

With all this being said, do you know what type of a woman you are or you were born from?

How is this impacting your life currently?

Should you wish to gain more clarity on this, please don't hesitate to make contact via whatsapp or email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

Much love

An unknown or hidden source of miscarriages and abortions

 

What is a miscarriage or abortion?

A miscarriage or abortion is a loss or death of a soul whether voluntarily or involuntarily. Voluntarily is when ones chooses the death to happen through an abortion and involuntarily is when it happens without the consent of the person pregnant. 

It must be noted that not all abortions are as a result of people not wanting to have a child at that particular moment, but at times it is a decision taken based on medical reasons, like a baby being at a high risk of having a lot of deformities that might result in the child not able to lead a normal life, e.g. problems with a heart or brain doesn't grow. Because of the too much risk , then a person would be advised to rather abort/terminate the pregnancy.

What if I told you that the source of both these events could be the same thing?

Before I go there, I would like to start here first:

As soon as implantation of a fertilized egg happens, a life is formed. Meaning that a soul is alive within you even though it is not yet in human form. 

The challenge with many of us is thinking that only once a baby is brought into this world, it is then that they are called a being. 

But in truth, even before bones and all other organs are formed life is already living within you. Even without a heart yet, the pregnancy can be detected through an ultrasound. 

We are told in the Bible that when a human being was formed, God said "Let us, create one of our own image". The question is "who was God talking to?". Some of us believe it were the Angels, spiritual council, ancestors, etc. Bottom line there were others that were involved in the creation of that soul. 

Now, when death happens to this soul, either voluntarily or involuntarily, loss or grief is brought to those that were involved in this formation/creation process. 

So, when death happens, there's things that needs to be done, to process and release the trauma of this loss. 

In the physical world, a funeral as well as a cleansing ceremony will be done to mourn and release this soul. 

The challenge happens when the death is in the early pregnancy, it is normally not done. The question we should be asking ourselves is "why"? Because just like in the physical realm life was created and lost. Why do we then think a life that lived within a womb is any different from the life that came to this earth?

I mean those that gets a still born child, they still undergo the same process of a normal death. What makes us think the other life doesn't or didn't matter?

What I mean by the source being the same between the 2 instances or events is exactly what I've just explained above. A life existed but its existence wasn't taken to account because it didn't last long?

Ask anyone who's lost something, it could be a phone, clothing or business, no matter how long they've had it, once it is lost, the pain they feel is the same as if they had it longer.

The same applies to those souls. They too need to be mourned and cleansed just like if it was a normal human being. Because they too existed in someone's womb no matter how long it was. 

They too matter. 

As we know by now that energy can't be destroyed but it gets transformed, who knows what these souls gets transformed into? 

All that I'm fully aware of and know is that, they too needs the very attention as others are given. Failure to do that is what leads to many people experiencing unexplainable miscarriages and abortions. I believe with my whole being that it is these unattended souls seeking someone's attention, in this case you that are experiencing such.

What if you've never had an abortion or miscarriage before yet you keep having miscarriages?

Remember within you exist generations and generations of souls through your DNA. If it's not you, it's definitely someone within your family especially your mother or grandmother, refer to this article for clarity on this.

So if any of them didn't perform a ritual to cleanse themselves after any of these events, it will reappear through your own experience because at the end of the day it must be done by someone, because the Law says "as above so is below"

What if you're not aware of this happening to your mother or grandmother, how would you know?

Your experiences will tell you. You yourself will have an abortion or miscarry for any other reason,  valid or not, it will happen because the cleansing must happen. 

Who gets affected by such happenings?

A person who's had an abortion

A person who was born after a still born or miscarriage

A person who was involved in the decision making especially if it was not because of medical reasons

How do they get affected?

They will struggle to find or maintain good relationships

Have unending womb problems

Experience more and more miscarriages in their lives especially if they try to conceive 

Experience endless money issues

Unexplainable job losses

Inability to thrive in business or career wise

Forever in debts (compulsive unending debts)

Scared of responsibility, shows signs of being a child forever)

Signs of slow growth especially in the child born after a miscarried/aborted child. They might turn out to be very ill disciplined and even end up using subtance to cope with the turmoil within them

And many more...........

What needs to be done to correct these?

Cleanse and purify yourself

Acknowledge the soul and their existence as part of you - e.g naming them

Forgive yourself 

Why is it important to cleanse and purify yourself?

It is a universal law. 

During the birthing process, death and life happens one after the other. The stage of a child being solemnly dependent on the mother in the womb ends (death stage), once that death stage happens or is reached, water comes as a sign that there's a new life coming through or birth taking place. 

According to the Bible when a human being was formed, God made it to rain and then formed man out of the dust that was turned to mud which was used to form a man into shape

When we loose a loved one, we all cry (water)

So the cleansing process is very important as it symbolizes the start of a new chapter in ones life. It's a sign of new beginnings. When we cleanse we reconnect with our pure God self. We cleanse ourselves of shame and guilt we might carry long into our lives because of these decision. Guilt and shame blocks love and creation ability in our lives.

Because the energy never dies but gets transformed, in these cases, it has now been transformed into a destructive energy hence we need to give it attention by acknowledging that it existed and then cleanse ourselves from the death stage and welcome the new life.

It is for these reasons, that you the person who is experiencing such challenges and have done many things besides this yet nothing seems to work, it's time for purification, not only for yourself but for all the other generations before you and those that will come after you. This way, you stop the generational curse that has probably started through your grandmother, passed through your mother to you and if you don't do anything about it, you stand a huge chance of passing it to your next generation (children and grandchildren).

All I can do over and above writing this blog to explain these things to you, is to plead with you to please do your part and rest shall follow.

Remember the word says:  "seek first the Kingdom of God and the rest shall be added onto to you". This is one of the ways we seek ye first, which is collecting all your leaking energies from places that no longer serve you.

I would really love to hear from you, please leave a comment or question below and also share this with your loved ones. 

If you wish to get hold of me for a consultation, please do so by email on: portia@theloveacademy.co.za or Whatsapp here

Much love

My spiritual battled with INFERTILITY and how I won it

What is infertility?

 In simple terms,  it is a condition where one struggles to conceive.

In my journey I also learnt that there are different stages to it:

Primary infertility -  one is diagnosed with it if there has never been any pregnancy

Secondary infertility -  is when a person has had one pregnancy.

What was the diagnosis on your case?

I was diagnosed with secondary infertility

It was discovered that I had an inverted uterus (womb) meaning  my womb was tipped backwards.

The cause of it in my case was discovered to have been a bleeding cyst on my left ovary.  

I had a minor operation done (hysteroscopy) which helped with this diagnosis and I receive treatment and it was confirmed I should be able to conceive

How does spirituality link to infertility?

Immediately after the operation I started looking for ways of helping heal my womb so I can be able to conceive. I discovered that as we are spiritual beings having a human experience, there are some other issues at play in the spirit that also cause infertility

In my case, when I had my 1st child I swore that I will never have another child because of the pain I endured during delivery. It's like I told my womb to never conceive because it was harmful to us. This resulted in this trauma being stored in my womb and because words are a powerful creating tool, I called it to be.

I was also not raised by my own mother whom at some stage felt that I was being taken away from her but I am the fruit of her womb. Because of this feeling within her, it also created some turmoil/chaos in the spirit

Lastly, as mentioned in the past article where I shared how the relationship between yourself, mother and grandmother affects your well being, it turned out that my grandmother's mother died after giving birth to her.

These are the traumas that I had stored in my womb where my womb was unconsciously preventing me from suffering. 

These are some revelations that seemed to be case with me, some of my coaching clients and those that I've shared with information with before.

What are some of things you discovered were the case with others?

Other contributing factors were/are:

Not having a great relationship with the mother, where for an example one will swear not to be like their mother and bring a child to this earth to suffer

Having had an abortion or thinking of having one

Being raped or being born from rape 

Being born after a still born child 

Mother experiencing something traumatic during her pregnancy with you

And many more

How does one begin to heal this ordeal?

Forgive your mother for whatever she did or didn't do

Forgive yourself if you uttered words that were not good towards motherhood

Seek professional help and go for diagnosis and start treatment

Cleanse yourself 

Invest in womb healing and health

I know this might sound unbelievable but it does work and all efforts put towards it are so worth it. Don't suffer in silence or even give up on yourself especially if you really want this. 

If you have battled with infertility and were able to conceive, please share with us in the comments section what helped you.

For any further assistance, connect with me via WhatsApp or email: portia@theloveacademy.coza

Much love

How your 1st period relates to everything in your life - work, love, relationships, money, etc.

 

What is this woman on about now?

Hahahahaha, I'm sure that's the question that ran through your mind as you read the title of this blog, hahahahahaha

Well, let me indulge you then

What are periods in the first place?

It's a time in a month where a woman will  naturally cleanse off her body what is no longer needed by the body for that period. This is my simplest explanation.

According to the scientific explanation it is said that it is a vaginal bleeding that happens as part of the woman's monthly cycle if no pregnancy had happened that the body had prepared for.

What has your 1st period had to do with anything?

Before I can go there, let me first explain when do a woman starts getting periods. 

There comes a stage in a girl's development that the body naturally gets to that part where  as a girl whom may at times be still a child around 10 to 12 or teenager grows to be a woman. 

And when that stage comes, it is shown by a girl getting their periods. This normally happens during  puberty. 

What this then means is that the girl child's body is capable to conceive and co-create with God, i.e make babies.

It is for that truth that most of us are told to stay away from boys when we get our 1st period. No any other education happens around it. 

In most cases when you do get the lecture (if you're lucky) it comes in the form of fear, being told of what to fear and nothing with what else does this mean about you and to you as a girl child. As a result many of us fear getting our periods early or even having them at all. 

As you can see from the little explanation shared,  you're co-creating with God at that moment. You have just been ordained with your natural super power and ability which comes with the power of multiplication that God gifted every woman with.

What needs to be happening when a girl child gets to this stage, it should be celebrated, like it used to happen back in the olden days. 

Unfortunately it is not, why? Because of FEAR.

How was your 1st period experience and how old were you?

Yesterday  I wrote on my Facebook timeline; "the day equivalent to the age you were when you first had your periods says a lot to you about yourself, your purpose and mission in this life". You should have seen the comments, hahahahahaha.

What I found interesting was that many people didn't even remember how old were they but remembered who they were with, how they felt and what was said to them. 

I'm here to share with you that it is very important to know or remember when was your 1st period and most importantly how you felt and what was happening, why?

Because that was your spiritual awakening, when you stepped into your greatness, your super natural Godness. 

How you experience your ordination to your womanhood serves as a foundation as to how you'll step into the many other areas of your life that speaks to your  growth and development.

What do I mean by this?

Let me illustrate by using a practical example:

When I first had my period I was 17. It was the most painful experience I've ever had. I thought I was actually dying. Nothing I took could make the pain go away, until some lady made a concussion for me using herbs, I could smell aloe, I could smell weed, I could smell jeyse fluid and methylated spirit in this thing and I fell into deep sleep.

Then when I gave back to my 1st child I also felt like I was dying. When I left corporate into business I felt like I was dying. Everytime there's a huge step I must take in my life that leads to great expansion and growth I freeze, feel numb as if my heart is about to stop. 

As I embarked on my healing journey I received a revelation that I must start observing what happens on the 17th of every month in my life. I have noticed that I make life changing decisions or I'm able to gain clarity or find solutions on this day. 

17 has become my lucky number. I also discovered that my late grandmother that we share so much in common with was 17 when she left home and never looked back to go start a new life outside of home for herself. 

Recently I have been officially welcomed as a makoti to the family I've been married into for 12 years already, I left home on the 17th and this was unplanned on my side but it is a date his family was most comfortable with.

What am I saying to you?

I'm saying to you, your purpose and mission of being here in this life lies on the day equivalent to the age you were when you stepped into womanhood your Godness self.

Your strengths and weaknesses lie in how you experienced your periods. What was said to you, who was with you and how you felt are all messages that gives you an idea of who you truly are.

And if you don't remember much, observe what happens around you on this day, what are people crying about or complaining about, what you are attracted to on this day. All this will give you a piece of a puzzle for your greater mission. 

That's why my advise is, journal on this day. Journal about everything, from how you are feeling, what you're observing about others and events happening around you. As you keep journaling you'll get to meet and know things about yourself that are a huge aspect of your being. 

When you start journaling on this day as well as when you are in your periods, you'll find so much about yourself that will help you with your love life, your work and/or business as well as your life purpose.

And if you are one of those people who their experiences were too painful and traumatic, here with is a link to a womb healing technique that I've also used and had great impact in my life

Remember your body stores all the emotions and experiences you go through, which is why it's important to make sure that you incorporate body movement into your daily life.

I am here to remind us women that we are more powerful than we actually phantom and it is time we step up and own our greatness. 

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Much love