As you heal your love story, period pains vanish

😂😂😂 yes, you heard right.

And this is a true story for me.

I was challenged conceiving my youngest son, in such a way that in 2010 while everyone was enjoying the World Cup here in South Africa, I was in and out of hospital every month, on overnight observations. And every time, I'll be told it's bladder infection.

It was in 2011 March when my manager who was female told me to get a 2nd opinion from other specialist as she knew it was 2 years trying consciously for a baby with no luck. She referred me to a fertility specialist, who discovered a whole lot of things in my womb which led him to diagnosing me with Endometriosis Stage II. He told me something very interesting the day I got discharged out of hospital after a minor operation he had to do, that I must have experienced a lot of trauma because my womb wasn't looking healthy. He also asked if I experienced any period pains of which the answer was a definite yes. He then told me that as soon as one experiences period pains then they must know there's something wrong in their menstrual cycle as one shouldn't be having any pains during their periods. He further explained that your body alerts you through pain as to where it needs attention. 

I mean, in our culture we've been told that it is normal to experience period pains and they will go away when one has a child. That time I had a 11 old year child, so this was found not to be true in my case. As the period pains were getting worse as I was growing older.

Well, let me say I did manage to conceive after the minor operation. But what he had also advised was that we had to consider removing the womb altogether as there was no permanent cure for Endometriosis.

After having a baby I opted to put an Implanton instead of using contraceptives. This contraception method is a 3 year term thing and one doesn't get their periods which suited me very well because I honestly hated my periods, because that was the most miserable time of the month for me. The pain was just too much.

It was in 2014 after removing the Implanton that I decided to fully engage on finding a natural solution for this condition instead of having to remove the womb. That is when I came across the www.floliving.com  website, which gave me so insight about how I can heal these womb issues the natural way.

Now, you may be wondering:

How does all this link to healing the love story?

As I embarked on a journey of healing my love story that's where I realized that the more I delved into healing my pain which has been laying in my womb, I started getting rid of many symptoms that I had been getting, like period pains. 

I mean it's been a while since I've had any symptoms related to the condition I was diagnosed with which i thought was normal, until the fertility specialist told me otherwise. I promise you, now Mrs. Monthly comes without me noticing anything. She will just arrive with no symptoms whatsoever. 😍😍😍.

Now, if you have been in my position where unbearable abdominal and back pains, followed with headaches were your normal life to where I am now, it is a HUGE DEAL 🙏💖. 

How did you do it, you may be wondering?

1. I downloaded the app MyFlo to start tracking my period cycles and symptoms. The app gives you insights on hormones, what to focus on in terms of work, the exercises to do, food to eat, what to do to boost your love life and you can share the app with your partner so they help you on your journey (whichever way they can - support is everything you know)😍
2. Started paying attention to Mrs. Monthly herself, the color, odor, length etc.
3. Delved into monthly womb healing rituals (story for another day)
4. Most importantly, I started looking at healing my emotional body, which is where I've been carrying these pains. Facing and dealing with all the emotions as they appeared. And truly engaged in healing the aspects of my love story that needed healing. Now, this is a lifetime journey as these pains show up differently in your life, through your relationships, money, work etc. I started investing in dealing with whichever area of my life that was showing me flames. I must say, I'm truly happy to have embarked especially on this particular part of my life, because since I've started understanding why things happen the way they do and show up, my monthly visits by Mrs. Monthly have been such a bliss 😍💖

Which is why today I can attest, that the more you heal your love story, the period pains become the thing of the past. Actually even your fertility issues.

I'm honored to be landholding my fellow sisters as they heal their love story because deep down I know, the benefits are greater than the investment itself. 

Should you wish for me to be part of your healing journey, please do not hesitate to make contact via WhatsApp 064 518 1767 or email: portia@theloveacademy.com

Your Sacred relationship Coach

What's your love story?

Your love story didn't start when you got into a relationship with someone, i.e when you started dating, it started way before you even came to this earth. 

Here I'm talking about your love story in this lifetime.

When did it start, kanti?

Good question 😍

Your current love story started while you were still in the womb. It started immediately after you were formed completely in the womb and your senses started being activated. 

It has been confirmed that a child hears everything around them while they're still in the womb. That is why it is so easy for a new born baby to recognize the voice of the mother while before they can see her image. 

Not so long ago (2019), I came across a video of a new born baby that smiled at daddy after recognizing his voice, please check the picture for yourself here

This shows that our love story started when we were already in the womb with our primary sources.

Even worse with your mother because a baby senses her emotions too. Therefore your love story gets formed from what these 2 people get up to.

Let me illustrate this using my own love story.

My love story..........

I was told that  my father denied the pregnancy and said I wasn't his child. 

I can only imagine what my mother went through that time. 

So with me, feelings of rejection and abandonment started way before I set foot on this earth. By the time I got here I had a story to either reinforce or correct through my own love life.

As young as 5 years old I didn't have a good relationship with men. I was raped and sexually abused many times in my childhood. All these things happening reinforced the same rejection and gave me more reasons not to like these species.

When I started dating, I jumped from one partner to the other, doing what? Looking for this huge aspect of myself that was abandoned - my father.

How  does your love story affects your current relationships?

Depending on what story you formed when you were in the womb, you'll either repel or be loyal to the story. 

For example,

• If when your mother was pregnant with you, there was no connection between your father and you, meaning he didn't make efforts to connect with you by playing or talking to you, there will already be distance between the two of you. 
• If you are a man, you might find yourself having difficulty connecting or even getting close to your own kids - this is when you become loyal to the story you formed then
• If you are a woman, you'll either attract men that are unavailable or look for your father in men out there, i.e craving deep connection. This playing out is being loyal to the story because all this is reaffirming is that men are emotionally unavailable. 

Similarly, repelling against your story will be vice versa on the scenarios above, which is

connecting and being close to your own kids (man) , and attracting partners that want to be with you (woman)

Your love story is based mainly on the relationship between yourself and the two people who created you. Therefore any disconnection with one of them will create some disconnection within yourself. 

What's the real purpose of you being here related to your story?

You're here to either heal your love story or share your  healthy love story with others. 

Meaning if your love story that you formed before you came here was negative, then your journey in love is to heal that story so that you can experience the very same love you've always wanted and in turn help others know and experience love through you.

The greatest challenge with many of us especially the black nation is that our love stories are not so great. Because our ancestors experienced so much separation, men were away from home to work and it was the responsibility of a woman only  to groom a child. Even worse, men were not encouraged to connect with their kids while the wife is still pregnant because this was seen not to be the role of a man.

So many of us, our love stories are that bad, because of how things were then. Which is why we are now called to change this love story so that generations after us can experience and learn something completely different through us.

What's interesting is that even the names we were given or the names we give our kids tells a lot about the love story

Now, I look back and realize it's no coincidence my mother gave me the names I have.

What has your names got anything to do with your love story?

My name is Nomasonto and the other one is Portia. But my mother gave me a nickname "Popie" apparently I looked like a doll 😀, and she would tell people about this doll she had. So that's the name I was using most of my life.

It is only recently that I've started using my first name Nomasonto. The meaning of my names:

Nomasonto - initially I thought I was probably born on a Sunday which is why she gave me that name, but I wasn't, I was born on a Wednesday. Only to realize later the meaning behind the name, sonto is church in Zulu.

Now, I'm a firm believer that church is not the building or even the congregations we attend but you yourself. The inner person living inside of you. Meaning a church is a person. Which is why my work today is help others heal their inner relationship.

Portia which is my second name. Not so long ago, I learnt about the ascended master lady Portia, whose role in her lifetime was to bring about karma and justice.

Looking at my names, you can tell already that my existence was merely to either bring karma or justice to the love story I had created while in the womb.

Therefore the questions you are to answer for yourself daily are " what is my love story?" and "How is/are my names related to this story?"

Now, in order for you to be able to own your love story and also do exactly what you were meant to be, you've got to know first what your story is.

How to identify it?

1. Look at your love experiences this far - what story are they telling you?
2. If you still have your mother around - ask her what her experience in life was when she was pregnant with you? What emotions she went through, etc. ?

This is where your journey to healing the story starts.

What if she's no longer around, are you then doomed?

No, you are not, because you're still here. So you can start by using your current experiences to identify your love story so you can embark on the healing journey.

Because, the good thing is that once you start your own healing journey and you heal your love story, you'll be already altering the DNA of your generations. Meaning everyone who will come through you will know and have a different love story just because you did your part.

Helping people identify and heal their love story is the reason I wake up daily. To know more about me you can read here. You can connect with me via WhatsApp on +27 64 518 1767 or email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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Much love

Are you still stuck in the past in your relationships journey?

Many of us are not even aware that our behaviors and responses to life's happenings reflect if we are allowing life to flow through us or hanging on to some energies that result in us blocking ourselves from experiencing love the way we want to.

How are you holding on to the past?

If you're still saying things like:

"you have changed"

"you no longer treat me the way you used to"

"so and so used to do this and that"

"I wish things can go back to normal, how they used to be"
"That happened to me before, so I don't want to take chances"

All these comments are signs you're still stuck in the past when life is passing by. 

In reality you'll never experience the same experience you did before. It can only happen the way it happened only once in its experience, any other time it is you holding on to the experience itself.

You're called to this understanding that CHANGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT IS CONSTANT, and when you do, you'll then enjoy many more experiences as they are meant to happen.

A typical example of how one holds on to the past?

A client of mine took a business opportunity 2 years ago and worked with these people who had a contract but didn't have the assets to fulfill the terms of the contract. She got into the business engagement with these people who ended up using her assets and not paying her.

She took her assets back from them and made a conscious decision that she'll never get into business with people  who come from the same area as these people who crooked her. Not only that, she decided she'll keep her assets until she finds a direct contract. It's been 2 years waiting

What has been happening is that she's been attracting all other people who wants to get onto the same arrangement with her and she's been refusing the opportunities and getting frustrated about this.

When she came to me she wanted me to help her understand why she keeps attracting these people into her life.

The answer to that is: You take yourself with everywhere. So if you keep attracting the same experiences, it shows that you have not healed from a wound that was created by that initial act.

Another typical example is always attracting partners who cheat on you.

You're attracting these people so you can start healing that part of you.

How can she heal this aspect of herself so that it doesn't repeat itself?

1. Identify what wounded her in the first place -  "people not honoring their part of the deal"

2. Establish what lesson she needed to learn - "set boundaries for herself"

3. Identify in what areas of her life is she doing the same thing - "mirror work"

3. Determine possible solutions for future engagements - "find and learn what other possible ways are out there that can help prevent this happening, instead of denying herself the opportunities, e.g  she can look into JV agreements instead.

By the time we had finished with the session she realized how  she's denying herself of what she wants which is to prosper and grow in business just because of an incident that happened in the past, that led her to believe that everyone will do exactly what the other person did.

The same applies to your relationships, what the previous men/women did to you doesn't mean every men/women are like that.

Take a good look at yourself,  what will your ex's say about you if they were asked? Does that mean you're exactly like that to date? I'm sure a lot has changed about you, what makes you think much hasn't changed about others?

Be reminded, your past is exactly that and you only take it to your future if you don't learn the lessons you were meant to learn.

Question to ask yourself as you allow yourself to move from your past is:

"What lesson did that incident present for me to learn?"

Thank you for stopping by, please share this with your loved ones to help shed some light so they can start experiencing life for what it is, they way they want to - loving unconditionally

Much love