Is it even possible?
Yes it is, very much so.
How Is it even possible?
As depicted in the picture, you experienced your grandmother's love story because as she was pregnant with your mother, you were also part of the equation but as a seed in your mother's womb. So, whatever your grandmother went through it is ingrained in your DNA.
But my grandmother had a beautiful love story, why am I not winning then in love?
One thing we need to understand is that we keep memories in our body. Meaning many times we may not express in words or even actions what we're going through, but the body keeps the memory. The fact that you didn't see it, doesn't mean it didn't happen.
Remember our parents and especially our grandparents didn't show or even fight in front of us. Which is why to date many of us will say "my parents had a beautiful marriage and never fought, always happy". What you must understand is that not seeing it doesn't mean it wasn't there. Which is why many of people are struggling in relationships because they're looking for what they saw from their parents which is necessarily not the entire truth of the relationship. But definitely it was felt and kept by the body one way or the other.
Still confused? Let me dive in a little deeper
Remember, most of our grandmothers didn't live their best life because of the laws that were in place at that time. Some were forced to even marry a person that they were not in love with. Others were unable to live their dreams as the laws of that time didn't permit women to do and obtain certain things. As a result what most of us saw, were the coping mechanisms that were adopted in order to be able to survive in that time.
As a result, what was displayed at most times in front of us were not the entire truth of what was. So when you were in there, you felt all of it exactly as was not what was meant to be seen out there.
So, what many of us then did when we came face to face with this reality, you made a vow not to allow this to happen to you. So the minute you enter mother earth, you came already carrying that vow in your soul. This is what we talk about when we say "heal your trauma" which is in this case the fragmented aspect of your soul.
What does fragment soul mean?
It means that your soul is not experiencing its life in its true divine form but through the eyes and pain of another. Which is why then you'll keep attracting people that are of similar nature in your love life and you end up thinking there's no hope, all because of the vow you made.
Can vows be reversed or corrected, if yes, how?
Yes, they definitely can be corrected. The best place to start is to acknowledge the pattern you're seeing. Acknowledge it as is without judging it as wrong or right.
For example, let's say your grandmother was a stay at home person, or had a spiritual gift that they refuted because of the laws as explained above. Your part is to acknowledge where she was.
I always tell my clients to start asking the question "what happened to me?" when they want to start healing this aspect of themselves. What then happens is that certain memories start resurfacing, that you were not even conscious of. These memories will be of events that actually did happen that you didn't remember because you chose not to at that time. What happens is that the minute you start asking these type of questions, then you start remembering.
What we need to understand about vows, is that when we make them we use the fight/flight mechanism which is what as species we activate in order to survive. In these cases these vows take on one of the two forms, i.e. repel or attract. Meaning you will either repel the minute you smell anything that reminds you of that feeling or you will stay with the person who gives you the similar feeling even if it hurts you.
How does one breakthrough then?
1 - By having clear understanding and accepting that you are NOT your mother or grandmother.
2 - Accept that it was their journey that they lived that way and you're not here to correct them or live it better for them. This is how you unconsciously repeat the story
3 - Invest in your own healing of the fragmented aspects of your soul so that you can live your truth.
Remember whatever it is that one experienced is not a mistake, it happened because it was meant to happen that particular way and for a reason. Your part is to know and live your truth and not see life through their eyes and by judging them for the choice of life they accepted for themselves. Whichever way that life was, it is what they chose for themselves. You also need to do same for yourself, otherwise, you will keep repeating their love story until it sinks in that you must live your own truth.
Feel free to engage by commenting on this post or reach out by email on: portia@theloveacademy.co.za
Much love
