Dear parents......

Your kids are not here to learn from you but to help you grow 💥💥💥

Yep, you heard right!

What do I mean by that?

Your child knows you better than you think they do. They know very well actually.

Because your child's pure existence is YOU. 

In your child runs run your blood and your DNA. Your child being here is a full expression of who you are. 

In order for the baby to be formed, your reproductive cell which is an egg and a sperm had to come together to form this baby. 

So, you are a huge part of your child.

How can they know you? 

They came here to help you know a different way of being besides what you know. That is why as kids grow older, they will tell you in your face, that "I'm not you, I don't see things like you, can't I just be myself"

They know very well that being you (the parent) is not that there is to being, but there's actually more to it. Which is why they came through this life to help you to discover a whole more about life.

But, because we were taught that baby's learn from us, we then thought we have to act a certain way, do certain things so that they can be better individuals.

Guess what, that is a bubble that these kids are here to help us blow up. They came here already knowing who and what you are all about.

It's even worse, as a mother the baby takes on everything about you from emotions, to energies to the food you consume, etc. while they are still in your tummy.
The same applies to the father, the baby take on whatever you are at that moment. If you are present during the pregnancy, the child will warm up so easily and connect with you so easily. 

If the child came through rape, they know the kind of seed you are, and they come here to help heal that particular type of seed in humanity whichever way they came to do

What is parenting all about?

Parenting is all about your growth.

It is all about you allowing another human being to be fully themselves.

It is about you allowing to heal from a whole lot of emotions and wounds you are already carrying.

It is about you allowing yourself to be shown a different way to be in this life.

It is not all about you, but them. Stop putting yourself under pressure, because the more you do that, the more you plant things in this child that they are not here for. The more you create resistance in your life, that will express itself in so many different way, e.g ill discipline, anger, etc.

Just let the child be, they know how to be.

You don't believe me? Look at a new born baby, the know how to be joyful, happy all by themselves without your help. 

They know when to do whatever they are ready for without your help. They know how to communicate with you and get your attention on whatever they want. That is why they'll cry if they need a nappy change or are hungry or are not feeling well. They know when to start walking, etc.

They know very well how to express and communicate whatever they need to at any given moment.

You don't need to teach them how to do these things. They are doing this all by themselves - knowing how.

All you have to do is allow yourself to be taught what you don't know through them, because all that you know is what was taught and instilled in you. They know that, and God being good, he co-created a human being with you so that you can learn from a smaller version of yourself. 

Look around you and see what amazing things children around you are capable of doing. They are doing things that some of us as adults we don't even know. Creating wonders in the world. 

Kids have written and published book as early as 4 years old, some by the time they are 8 (like Stacy Fru) have published about 4 books. I heard the other day that the highest paid YouTuber is an 8 year old boy Ryan Kaji

And we want to think, these kids don't know they are?

Do I say all kids are like this?

Yes, I believe with my whole being all kids are greatest teachers. I don't know how many learning I've received in my life through my now 8 year old son. From before his birth, until this day, I've learnt and still learning valuable life lessons through him.

He cries when he wants to cry, he gets easily excitable, he's not afraid to ask for help, he knows very well how to express himself through his body, language, alles. He tells things as he sees them. He knows things we ourselves don't know and explains them very well to us. There's a lot

What am I saying to parents?

Can we please allow these kids to be. 

If you have already done the damage because you didn't know or see things this way, it's OK. Your child knows that too. But it's time for you to let go of thinking you know better. 

Because the truth of the matter is you don't. 

Allow yourself to heal through your child by first acknowledging what you have done this far unconsciously and all in the name of teaching them. Forgive yourself for you didn't know. Then go apologies to your child and then sit back and watch how things turn around in your life through their eyes.

You owe yourself and them that much

ALLOW YOUR CHILD TO HOLD YOUR HAND TOO!

Thank you for stepping by, I'm glad to be a guide to shed this light to you

Much love

Are you a spiritual person?

This is a question I was asked by someone after listening to a YouTube video I did explaining what  the statement "you attract who you are" means. You can check the video out here

My response to her was "yes I am and so are you" 😍

Then I asked her "what do you mean by me being a spiritual person? She then explained that according to her understanding a spiritual person is everyone who is in the journey of being a healer like a sangoma, pastors, prophets, etc. People that are called to help others heal.

I then said to her: "but we're all called to help others heal, in many exciting and yet different ways" 😍, that is why the word of God says we're fearfully and wonderfully made"

After a short but very exciting call with her, I decided I'm going to blog about this and help as many other people as possible get the clarity and understanding  she had based on my answer to her.

Why do I say we are all spiritual people?

That is because we are all spirit before we are a physical person. Actually we are a spirit having a human experience through this body.

So, me and you and every other human being alive at this moment, is more spirit than the body itself. But the spirit needs the body to be live in, while the body won't be alive without the spirit in it. So we're two in one person, both needed each other to make you alive this time as a person you are now.

What do I mean by that?

If a person dies and is declared dead, the body of the same person will be still around here, but they'll be declared dead, and it doesn't end there, those that are there will say Nomasonto is no longer with us. Now the body that we knew that has always been with us with a spirit living in it, will still be here, which is the same body we do lay to rest at the graveyard. 

But everyone will be crying that their loved one is no more.

Now this clearly explains that the loved one, a person we see with our physical eye is not entirely the real person. Meaning that the real person is actually the one that we don't see, that we can't even touch. But we can only experience them through this body that we see and can touch.

How are you fearfully and wonderfully made?

God saw it fit, that in this world somebody exactly like you is needed in this specific time. He looked at your family both maternal and paternal and thought if I don't create such an individual there'll be hell to pay in these families. But it didn't end there, he also thought a specific person with your specific gifts and talents is needed in this world for wonderful things to happen through you.

Now, why is that we think others are spiritual and some are not?

The people that are assumed to be spiritual are those human beings that have decided to invest more time and energy consciously connecting to the spirit person they are. 

These are the people that at some stage it is believed that they have supernatural powers that others don't. And because they've invested so much time and energy into connecting intentionally with themselves, it looks to others like they are different but in actually effect we are all different, it's just that these individuals have intentionally decide to be conscious about what they do and how they show up in the world , tap into these gifts that they possess (that we all have been given in different ways) so that they can help others whichever way God has allowed and imparted them to.

Unfortunately what a lot of people haven't understood is that whether you do it intentionally or not, the spirit person that you are is always in control of what happens in your life. 

So you might as well pay attention to getting to know yourself better and connect with yourself on a conscious level.

What are the benefits of consciously investing in yourself?

You stop fighting life and start accepting life as it is not how you want it to be

You stop trying to fix people you've got no business fixing

You start showing up in the world as your best self

You start appreciating everything and everyone you come across in your life

You get to know yourself better everyday

You start loving yourself and others unconditionally

You start seeing everyone else as yourself

Does this mean all these people we say are spiritual are like this?

Not everyone see things this way. Others they look at investing themselves as a job to make themselves money and others even use this as a way to abuse and take advantage of others. 

So at the end of the day, it depends with the person as to how they're receiving themselves as well as others around them.

So with being said, it brings me to the last point I want to share: 

All the experiences, including the people you attract in your life are actually called into your life by the spirit person you are, to help you to get to know yourself better, where you are doing well and where you still need to heal. The whole point of bringing these experiences and people to your life is to help you return back to the unconditional love that you are so that you can express and share the love that you are with the world. 

Just like I've been saying all along, if you want to experience the blissful relationships you came here for, you are gonna have to start paying attention to the spirit self you are. 

How do you do that?

• Pay attention to your emotions. Because your emotions are actually energy in motion (e-motion), which is you in a nutshell.
• Listen to what your spirit person is communicating to you at any given moment. How? Through your feelings. How you are feeling at any given moment is your spirit person communicating to you if you are (both spirit and physical person/body) in alignment. So, whenever you feel good emotions just know that you're in alignment and whenever you feel bad emotions you are not in alignment. In simple terms (you're either on the same page or same whatsapp group or you are not)

At the end of the day, you make the decision whether consciously or unconsciouly as to what you want to experience in your life. 

So, you might as well do it consciously because you are creating all of it at the end of the day. 😀

If any of this has raised so many questions or made you feel even more bad or you still  want more clarity based on your own personal experiences, please do not hesitate to contact me by email at: portia@theloveacademy.co.za or Whatsapp 064 518 1767

I'd like to hear from you still especially if this has shared light and shifted you in any way, you can share by living a comment below and then share this with your loved ones.

Much love