What's your love story?

Your love story didn't start when you got into a relationship with someone, i.e when you started dating, it started way before you even came to this earth. 

Here I'm talking about your love story in this lifetime.

When did it start, kanti?

Good question 😍

Your current love story started while you were still in the womb. It started immediately after you were formed completely in the womb and your senses started being activated. 

It has been confirmed that a child hears everything around them while they're still in the womb. That is why it is so easy for a new born baby to recognize the voice of the mother while before they can see her image. 

Not so long ago (2019), I came across a video of a new born baby that smiled at daddy after recognizing his voice, please check the picture for yourself here

This shows that our love story started when we were already in the womb with our primary sources.

Even worse with your mother because a baby senses her emotions too. Therefore your love story gets formed from what these 2 people get up to.

Let me illustrate this using my own love story.

My love story..........

I was told that  my father denied the pregnancy and said I wasn't his child. 

I can only imagine what my mother went through that time. 

So with me, feelings of rejection and abandonment started way before I set foot on this earth. By the time I got here I had a story to either reinforce or correct through my own love life.

As young as 5 years old I didn't have a good relationship with men. I was raped and sexually abused many times in my childhood. All these things happening reinforced the same rejection and gave me more reasons not to like these species.

When I started dating, I jumped from one partner to the other, doing what? Looking for this huge aspect of myself that was abandoned - my father.

How  does your love story affects your current relationships?

Depending on what story you formed when you were in the womb, you'll either repel or be loyal to the story. 

For example,

• If when your mother was pregnant with you, there was no connection between your father and you, meaning he didn't make efforts to connect with you by playing or talking to you, there will already be distance between the two of you. 
• If you are a man, you might find yourself having difficulty connecting or even getting close to your own kids - this is when you become loyal to the story you formed then
• If you are a woman, you'll either attract men that are unavailable or look for your father in men out there, i.e craving deep connection. This playing out is being loyal to the story because all this is reaffirming is that men are emotionally unavailable. 

Similarly, repelling against your story will be vice versa on the scenarios above, which is

connecting and being close to your own kids (man) , and attracting partners that want to be with you (woman)

Your love story is based mainly on the relationship between yourself and the two people who created you. Therefore any disconnection with one of them will create some disconnection within yourself. 

What's the real purpose of you being here related to your story?

You're here to either heal your love story or share your  healthy love story with others. 

Meaning if your love story that you formed before you came here was negative, then your journey in love is to heal that story so that you can experience the very same love you've always wanted and in turn help others know and experience love through you.

The greatest challenge with many of us especially the black nation is that our love stories are not so great. Because our ancestors experienced so much separation, men were away from home to work and it was the responsibility of a woman only  to groom a child. Even worse, men were not encouraged to connect with their kids while the wife is still pregnant because this was seen not to be the role of a man.

So many of us, our love stories are that bad, because of how things were then. Which is why we are now called to change this love story so that generations after us can experience and learn something completely different through us.

What's interesting is that even the names we were given or the names we give our kids tells a lot about the love story

Now, I look back and realize it's no coincidence my mother gave me the names I have.

What has your names got anything to do with your love story?

My name is Nomasonto and the other one is Portia. But my mother gave me a nickname "Popie" apparently I looked like a doll 😀, and she would tell people about this doll she had. So that's the name I was using most of my life.

It is only recently that I've started using my first name Nomasonto. The meaning of my names:

Nomasonto - initially I thought I was probably born on a Sunday which is why she gave me that name, but I wasn't, I was born on a Wednesday. Only to realize later the meaning behind the name, sonto is church in Zulu.

Now, I'm a firm believer that church is not the building or even the congregations we attend but you yourself. The inner person living inside of you. Meaning a church is a person. Which is why my work today is help others heal their inner relationship.

Portia which is my second name. Not so long ago, I learnt about the ascended master lady Portia, whose role in her lifetime was to bring about karma and justice.

Looking at my names, you can tell already that my existence was merely to either bring karma or justice to the love story I had created while in the womb.

Therefore the questions you are to answer for yourself daily are " what is my love story?" and "How is/are my names related to this story?"

Now, in order for you to be able to own your love story and also do exactly what you were meant to be, you've got to know first what your story is.

How to identify it?

1. Look at your love experiences this far - what story are they telling you?
2. If you still have your mother around - ask her what her experience in life was when she was pregnant with you? What emotions she went through, etc. ?

This is where your journey to healing the story starts.

What if she's no longer around, are you then doomed?

No, you are not, because you're still here. So you can start by using your current experiences to identify your love story so you can embark on the healing journey.

Because, the good thing is that once you start your own healing journey and you heal your love story, you'll be already altering the DNA of your generations. Meaning everyone who will come through you will know and have a different love story just because you did your part.

Helping people identify and heal their love story is the reason I wake up daily. To know more about me you can read here. You can connect with me via WhatsApp on +27 64 518 1767 or email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za

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Much love