Are you still stuck in the past in your relationships journey?

Many of us are not even aware that our behaviors and responses to life's happenings reflect if we are allowing life to flow through us or hanging on to some energies that result in us blocking ourselves from experiencing love the way we want to.

How are you holding on to the past?

If you're still saying things like:

"you have changed"

"you no longer treat me the way you used to"

"so and so used to do this and that"

"I wish things can go back to normal, how they used to be"
"That happened to me before, so I don't want to take chances"

All these comments are signs you're still stuck in the past when life is passing by. 

In reality you'll never experience the same experience you did before. It can only happen the way it happened only once in its experience, any other time it is you holding on to the experience itself.

You're called to this understanding that CHANGE IS THE ONLY THING THAT IS CONSTANT, and when you do, you'll then enjoy many more experiences as they are meant to happen.

A typical example of how one holds on to the past?

A client of mine took a business opportunity 2 years ago and worked with these people who had a contract but didn't have the assets to fulfill the terms of the contract. She got into the business engagement with these people who ended up using her assets and not paying her.

She took her assets back from them and made a conscious decision that she'll never get into business with people  who come from the same area as these people who crooked her. Not only that, she decided she'll keep her assets until she finds a direct contract. It's been 2 years waiting

What has been happening is that she's been attracting all other people who wants to get onto the same arrangement with her and she's been refusing the opportunities and getting frustrated about this.

When she came to me she wanted me to help her understand why she keeps attracting these people into her life.

The answer to that is: You take yourself with everywhere. So if you keep attracting the same experiences, it shows that you have not healed from a wound that was created by that initial act.

Another typical example is always attracting partners who cheat on you.

You're attracting these people so you can start healing that part of you.

How can she heal this aspect of herself so that it doesn't repeat itself?

1. Identify what wounded her in the first place -  "people not honoring their part of the deal"

2. Establish what lesson she needed to learn - "set boundaries for herself"

3. Identify in what areas of her life is she doing the same thing - "mirror work"

3. Determine possible solutions for future engagements - "find and learn what other possible ways are out there that can help prevent this happening, instead of denying herself the opportunities, e.g  she can look into JV agreements instead.

By the time we had finished with the session she realized how  she's denying herself of what she wants which is to prosper and grow in business just because of an incident that happened in the past, that led her to believe that everyone will do exactly what the other person did.

The same applies to your relationships, what the previous men/women did to you doesn't mean every men/women are like that.

Take a good look at yourself,  what will your ex's say about you if they were asked? Does that mean you're exactly like that to date? I'm sure a lot has changed about you, what makes you think much hasn't changed about others?

Be reminded, your past is exactly that and you only take it to your future if you don't learn the lessons you were meant to learn.

Question to ask yourself as you allow yourself to move from your past is:

"What lesson did that incident present for me to learn?"

Thank you for stopping by, please share this with your loved ones to help shed some light so they can start experiencing life for what it is, they way they want to - loving unconditionally

Much love