This is very normal and it is a quest that any human being finds themselves in at some point in their lives.
The challenge is when one seeks answers about why certain people are behaving or doing certain things to them and then spend their time and energy trying to figure out that person's behavior and doing everything in their power to fix them.
Well as you've seen until this far, that hasn't worked, because the person that is seeking the answers is you. And your are seeking must be all about you.
It is only when you get to this point where you need clarity for yourself that you'll get the answers you need. I'm sure you've heard that "you're what you think" or "your thoughts create your reality" and you've been wondering and even questioning or doubting the truthness to these kind of statements, because the big part of you says "if I am creating my reality then why would I call such bad experiences and horrible people and incidences into my life?"
The answer to that is "you are asking the wrong questions"
What? Is there such a thing ?
Yes, there is.
You see part of your brain's functionality is to find answers for you. So while you are doing this life, that's exactly what you'll get, answers to the questions you are asking.
Now, it must be made clear that the questions you don't only ask by speaking them out loud, you're asking through your thoughts, your actions even with what you are saying - your words.
Now when you start the question with the "why" the brain will go look for evidence for you. And all this evidence will be based on what you've programmed through repetitive thinking and doing throughout your life and even through what others around you have said and done.
It is therefore never a good idea to ask your brain "why" especially if you are feeling bad or are in a bad space because it will then go find you all the answers that will reiterate, confirm and in turn reaffirm all the bad experiences and things you've been through. It will find you the evidence of all the things you don't want.
Which is why for many of us, affirmations don't really work, not because they are not powerful statements, but because at the core of your being, you don't believe the things you are affirming to yourself. Instead of this empowering you, you find yourself feeling even worse than you did before you embarked on that quest.
So, what should you do instead?
You should ask still, the only difference is that this time around your question must start with "what".
Instead of you asking "why is all this happening to me?' you should rather ask "what is this teaching me?" or "what lesson(s) am I meant to get here?"
This way, you're still allowing your brain to do its work that it was created for, its just that this time you are asking for the solutions instead of the problem.
In a nutshell, this is what you're seeking: clarity on the repetitive occurrences, and you are called to answer these questions;
- What are you refusing to see ? - which is why the patterns are repeating
- What do you need to release off your system so that you can start having the life you want?
- What do you need to do in order to move on to the next phase of your life?
Once you get clarity on these, it is then that you'll start seeing and receiving the answers that you are seeking, which are and have always been within you.
One thing I can promise you is that once you get to doing your life this way, then the seeking becomes meaningful and exciting instead of hurtful and miserable.
This way, you become the light that you were always meant to be 🙏😍
If this article helped shed some light for you, please do share with others. And I would really love to hear your insights and comments on it.
Should you want assistance with getting clarity with the patterns of your life, please do feel free to make contact via WhatsApp +27 64 518 1767 or email: portia@theloveacademy.co.za
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