Why you keep ATTRACTING the same person in different people in your relationships?

 That's because you're NOT learning the lesson that they are bringing to your attention.

What do you mean?

Each relationship or person that comes into your life they come to show you certain aspects about yourself, good and bad. Many times we are mainly aware of the good things and don't want to hear or even acknowedge the bad.

Should we be doing that?

Short answer is YES. The challenge is that we were taught to only focus on the good about ourselves and nothing else. Actually weaknesses are deemed something we should be ashamed of. Hence many people are struggling in relationships

Have you heard of this "they bring out the worst in me?"

If you are anything like me and most of us humans, you definitely have and still say this about others 😂

And the next thing we do is BLOCK that person and move on to the next one. Only to find the same person in deeds dressed in a different body 😂

They bring out the worst in you because there's lesson(s) about this worst person that you are that you need to know and learn. 

This person is coming out of you because of whatever the other person had done or not done, said or not said, and they're coming from inside of yourself, right? So why is it a bad thing for you to meet this person?

You regard it a bad thing because of the conditioning. 

We were condition to believe what is right and wrong, what is good and bad, etc. Hence anything that doesn't look like what we were taught it bring us frustration.

What we miss in all of this is this here👇

There's a reason you are like that. There's a reason that person is buried somewhere inside of you. And them coming out, just like anything that comes out to your attention, it is because it needs your attention.

But you don't give that person the attention, instead you blame the next person for bringing them out instead of thanking them. Because if it were not for them, you wouldn't know about this person that is lying somewhere inside of you. 

Until you give this person/thing that keeps being repeated by all these people the attention it needs, they will keep showing up until the lesson is learnt. 

Just like in school, when you fail a subject, it is because there's something you missed about it the first time around and you need to redo it, same principle applies to life because the Laws of Nature work the same in everything

How to deal or acknowledge this person/thing about yourself without losing it?

Converse or dialogue with them. This is a very powerful technique as it helps gives you information you need to be aware of without judgement. You become more of an observer than a participant in this whole thing.

Let's illustrate using an example:

You are angry, the first thing to do is give this aspect of yourself a name that will remind you of the character you're working with, in this case ANGIE for example

"Angie, I hear you, now that you've got my attention, what do you want?"

Then start listening to the conversation that is happening in your head as you converse with this aspect of yourself. Ask questions where you need to and listen to the answers. 

DO NOT ASSUME things but LISTEN TO YOURSELF

As you do this, you will realize that at times even the things you're saying or that got you angry in the first place are not yours. It could be a voice of somebody else you know. In many cases it is those who groomed us especially in our childhood, teachers, parents, siblings, etc. 

Once there are no longer things you still need answer about, thank ANGIE for all the information shared 

This exercise/technique, will help you develop and practice compassion to yourself and others.

NOTE: Be aware that this shared here is one of the many reasons you are attracting these people. But this is where I always ask my client to start. And if you feel that you need support of a professional to help deal with this from the root cause instead of trying different methodologies, feel free to make contact with me via email on: emthonjenics@gmail.com or via Whatsapp here

One more last thing, you're attracting these people because YOU ARE CUT FROM THE SAME CLOTH,  just different patterns 😂😂😂😂😂. More on that in the next blog

Much love

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