You are never with a wrong partner!

Yes, you heard right. Let me put it in another way, there's no such thing called a "wrong partner" 😀
As painful and as wrong as this may sound to you but it is the truth

What's funny is that some of us have kids with these people we call "wrong partners", what does that say about these kids since the DNA of that wrong person runs in them too?😀😀

Which is why I maintain that there's is no such thing as a wrong partner

Why do I say this?

It is because in this life, nothing happens by coincidence and nothing that is happening or has happened  in your life is a mistake.
This includes all the people that you have been and are still going to be with, you didn't meet them by coincidence. They all came to your life to help you learn certain things about yourself.

What do we term "wrong partners"?

It is those people that bring the worst in us. It is those people that work you up the wrong way and make you see, do, say or even wish terrible things on others. They bring up a side of you that you don't like and/or are not even ready to meet.

What do I mean by this?

The reason you think and believe they are wrong for you is because of the way they behave and what they do to you which results in you feeling a certain way within yourself, i.e. angry, hurt, frustrated, etc.
A question you miss asking or answering for yourself every time you are in that situation is: "why is it that what they are doing or not doing affecting me so much.?"
I mean it is them that is doing or not doing it and not you, then why are you the one feeling these feelings or going through those emotions?
It is because these feelings and emotions are signalling to you that something inside of yourself that you hold onto so dearly is not serving you. This could be from beliefs, contracts/agreement that you made with yourself as result of what you saw happening in front of you, to those around you.

Or maybe that you were pre-conditioned to see and expect life to be a certain way. But now those conditions that you were told are the right way of being or doing are not applicable to you.

Instead of allowing yourself to see these things in you, know them so that you can either change accept them, you resist their existence in your life. And when the people that are brought into your life to help you see these things so that you can heal them, you say they are wrong for you.

What are some of the beliefs we hold that makes us see people as wrong people?

"Men are dogs"
"Women are complicated creatures"
"Men don't want to grow up"
"Women are sluts"

As if there's something wrong with being a dog. I mean we have different types of dog breeds - you just need to know the type of a dog you are with. But most importantly know what type of a dog you want. Don't expect a wild dog whose nature is to be on the wild chasing springboks be a pet dog. It's just not in it's nature. There are people who would love this type of a dog you are with  you know😀

Life and existence is complicated. Do you sit and complain about why you don't know and understand how other things work, like how you are breathing as in now? No, you don't. But you want to understand everything about women? Do you even understand everything about yourself?

It is such things that are making us have miserable relations with others. Because we have unrealistic expectations about things that not in our control.

What to do if you feel or think you are with the wrong partner?

1 - Reflect
What got you in that relationship in the first place?
Why did you choose to be or agree to be with that person in the first place?
2- Question
Your decisions about being there in the first place?
Why you think there's something wrong with this person?
What is wrong with what you are thinking about this person?
3 - Decide
Now that you know all that you know about yourself, what are you going to do about it?
Are you going to do what you've been doing - which is jump to the next ship? or
Are you going to start clearing and healing those aspects of yourself that are hidden from you?

My suggestion to you is - decide to start clearing and healing the aspects within yourself that are even attracting this caliber of people so that you can start appreciating and valuing their presence and existence in your life.

Because, everything that you've been through and you are still going to go through is exactly what you need at any given moment.
In fact, you agreed to it 😂😂😂

My mission in this life is to help you through your journey of love. Help you see the beauty of life as is not what you think it should be or should have been. Which is why I wrote an article not so long ago sharing what I believe love is, you can read all about it here

Instead of sitting and talking about the problem and how those partners have been or are a problem in your life, find a solution that is already within yourself about the very same problem you have

Not sure how do to that?

Reach out to me and I'll gladly assist you with understanding and getting clarity about why you are even having all those experiences in your relationship

Praying about it wont help, fasting for it wont help, but being a solution  is the answer

Do you now see or understand why God hasn't answered your prayers? It's because you want Him to change your guy's plans and he can't do that because you agreed to do it. You might as well start NOW.

The question is: 

"Are you ready to meet the other part of yourself that is being brought out by these wrong people you've been or are with in your life?"

Unfortunately, they don't need to change but you do.

😍😍😍